So, I sit next to this lady in my Health Care Essentials class. I like her a lot. She's funny and randomly optimistic about strange things, and she always has funny stories to tell about her work--- she's a home health keeper for people who can't take care of themselves/need babysitting/etc.
The thing about my friend is that she sometimes lacks a filter from her brain to her mouth. When she has a thought or question, she blurts it out. She doesn't say anything inappropriate, she just says a lot of things. This annoys a lot of the other students.
I feel that it's lucky I sit next to her instead of someone else, because I find it easy to like people who lots of other people don't. I guess I'm patient, because she doesn't get on my nerves, even though she's always copying my notes or assuming I'll help her study just because I get better grades. She's my friend.
Last Wednesday, we had our first one-on-one conference with our teacher. Among other things, I asked my teacher how I should handle this lady, how I could encourage her to still be excited about what we were learning about without being obnoxious or annoying other students. He said that he was going to talk to her about it.
Turns out, some of the students had been sending him e-mails about how my friend was irritating and wasting class time and complaining about her. Instead of being sensative to the situation, our teacher flat out told her about the e-mails and that students found her irriating. How mean was that? He could have just told her that he was happy she was excited about the material, but to give the other students chances to answers to questions or something like that. He didn't have to hurt her feelings like that. It really hurt her.
Sure, my friend wanted to know that she was being irritating to others, but it could have been handled much better. I feel bad for her. We're having a study date tomorrow and hopefully I can heal some of the wounds, and we can sort out how she can still get involved with our materials in a more appropriate way that she's still excited about.
that WAS handled badly! sheesh. you are so great to help her =] shes lucky to have you as a friend in that class. good luck with healing the wounds and trying to help her sort her thoughts
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